My father came for a visit today with mum of course, their inseparable..dont know if its is a good thing but mum's mum...and thats another story... well actually their here to watch the kids for a few days ..been a few bad weeks here, lee's dad has been very ill with Mesothelioma ( asbestos cancer) ..we nearly lost him two weeks ago but he pulled through, funny how the world works ....can be very frustratingly upsetting, not that I mean we would not want him here!! would rather have him here than not!!. funny how we spend all our time worried about the inevitable but don't concentrate and work on the now. On to the Gold Coast to arrange moving him back here to Hervey bay, you see he lived here when lee was in school for a few years and must have fell in love with the place. How do i feel ??, well thought I would write it out to see what cames ....he is very ill and we have been told we will be lucky to have him for Christmas..he has asked for kemo in a last ditched effort to prolong what is in despair a bridge to far...we are supportive of keeping him happy in what time he has left, his care will be needy, we don't mind..lee is strong, stronger than Ive given her credit for ..is it an act??, or is she ?....love her dearly and she thinks she can hide from me ..know her to well and have a shoulder in waiting. I'm angry !!,should I write that Lee's sister and BIL just don't seem to be stepping up in his time of need??., works more important to them...no I wont !!!..to much to bare at this time... just keep on track and do what is right , its all to hard atm to be that belligerent !!...any way to much to say and not enough will to stay calm....maybe another day!!
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Oh Matt I am so sorry for Lee and your family to be losing your FIL. I lost my Mum to cancer when I was 21 and she was 43 and its just a shite way to go (no there isn't a good way to go I guess). Encourage Lee to talk talk talk to her Dad and to you .. leave nothing unsaid. You are a great husband. Peace be with you guys at this time.
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Thanks Liz..we went down to pick him up today ...he has had but of a clean out of his house...he ill be with us until its fruition, we will be back and forth to the GC for the next six treatment of chemo and then see how we go ...unfortunatly the chemo is just a means to give him more tome to be with us ,.. he is busy spoiling his daughters of which there are only two...he is selling his beloved planned traveling vehicle and has just brought his daughters a car each...do they feel guilty??...its all just a bit hard to take in ...thanks for advice Liz...will do...
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